Potty training is another step in your child's development. It is another step, for example, when your child took their "first step". As you remember, they took their first step when they were ready. You gave them encouragement. That's the same way "potty training" is. If you give them encouragement, they will be "potty trained", when they are ready!
The parent makes the decision to begin "Potty Training":
As a parent you make the decision when your child is ready to begin "potty training" based on your child's "development" and not because your child for example is 2 years old.
These are signs of development to be aware of and questions to be asked: Is my child staying dryer longer in between diaper changes awake or asleep; is my child pulling at their diaper (especially) in the seat area, and once you check is the diaper solied, is my child pulling their diaper off, is my child acting irritable and swaying back and forth; does my child start to cry and have an uncomfortable look on their face; does my child stop playing and sit in one place; and does my child stand still frozen in one spot. These are just a few of the cues for you as the parent to be aware of.
Once you notice these cues and others, you as the parent have to ask yourself, is my child communicating effectively? Not just to me, but so that other people can understand.
Some questions of communication development are:
Does my child talk well enough so that others can understand? Talking does not have to be verbal i.e., does my child point to desired objects, or if I offer my child a choice will he/she pick one? Can I explain to someone who does not know my child, what their tendencies are, and do I feel as a parent that my child is "mature enough" to begin potty training? As a parent, you need to ask yourself, at my child's age, "does my child have the ability to follow and understand simple instructions"?
Beginning "Potty Training" should be based on your child's skills:
As a parent you must evaluate your child's development based on your child's own personal skills, and not what society says is the "age" to start "potty training". Since this is an important step in your child's development, the question should be, "is my child mature enough" for this important step in that development?
Once you have made the decision that your child is "developmentally" ready for potty training, the following steps can be helpful:
Step 1: Gather Information on Potty Training
Talk to family and friends about how they Potty Trained their children. Internet "search engines" have a lot of information about "potty training".
Step 2: Talking to Your Child "About" Potty Training
Start talking to your child about "potty training" before you actually start potty training. You, as the parent, have to decide when to start based on your child's abilities. Communication about "potty training" should start before the actual training begins. Tell your child that it is "OK" to tell whomever they are with, that they have to go "potty".
This must be done from the beginning because, from a child's point of view they may think the only person that they should tell they need to go potty, is the person who first started their "potty training". Potty training is a very private matter because it does involve the "privates", so it needs to be explained to your child that it is "OK" to tell the adult that is providing care to them, that they have to go potty; go to the bathroom, or toilet.
Step 3: Potty, Bathroom or Toilet
The bathroom, toilet or "potty" are common names that your child should be familiar with. Hearing these different names during potty training will " NOT CONFUSE" your child.
Step 4: Actual "Potty Training" Simple Method is the Best
Potty Training should be as "consistent" as possible which means the method should be as simple as possible. All caregivers during "Potty Training" should be following the same basic routine as closely as possible. For example: immediately upon waking up in the morning, your child should be placed on the potty, or sent to the potty to sit for the number of minutes you as the parent have already established for "potty training".
The daily caregiver should be following this same routine after naps. There should be a method established on how many times your child will go "potty" during the day; how long your child will sit on the potty; and how long after eating or drinking before your child will be taken or sent to the "potty". Remember "potty training" can be achieved quickly if all caregivers work together to establish a consistent method.
Step 5: How long will "Potty Training" take?
The Simplest Answer Is, It Will Take As Long As It Take!! There is no way of generalizing how long the process will take for your child. Each child is an individual. I do know from experience that with a consistent method it can take from 8 days to even 2 months are even longer it depends on the child. There are a lot of factors involved. Did you start your child's "potty training" when he or she was ready, or did you start based on age? Were you consistent with your method, and did you include your child's daily provider? With time and patience all children will be "potty trained".
Step 6: Started Potty Training but my child is "not ready" to be "Potty Trained".
If you start "potty training" but your child is not ready to learn "potty training", it is OK to stop until you feel your child is ready. It would be ideal to continue when "potty training" starts, but what is most important is the welfare of your child. Sometimes it may take longer for a child to become accustomed to having control of their "sphincter muscle". This is the muscle that indicates to a child that they have to go or keep from going. If your child is having a difficult time, and you have determined that it maybe a medical issue or other factors; these issues should be discussed with your child's pediatrician.
In conclusion, I am here to "assist" you with your chosen method of "potty training" your child. Remember, "potty training" is another step in your child's development. It should be as simple a method as possible for your child.
HAPPY POTTY TRAINING!